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Today I went to Parnassus Books to use a gift card I received for Christmas. I was already in a good mood when I walked in (Books and gift card!). There was an author speaking, and I let his words drift over me as I browsed. But suddenly they stopped drifting. The author was Jon Acuff, a Nashville inspirational speaker who has written several books on setting and achieving goals, a perfect choice for a new year speaker. And he’s also incredibly funny.
He said he once asked a sales clerk at Publix how long she thought most people kept their resolutions. Three weeks, she answered with certainty. He asked how she knew.
“Because that’s when the kale stops selling.”
But he followed that up with a more serious comment. He thinks that we have done the younger generation a disservice by stressing following their passion and not having a fuller discussion about what means. As a result, when things get tedious and/or hard, many think, “This is awful. My passion can’t be awful. This must not be my passion. I’ll find something else.”
But following a passion doesn’t give anyone a pass from the tedious/hard things in life. As Acuff said, for many people, doing the budget brings little happiness. But if you are going to own your own business or run a household, it has to be done. When we talk to the young about following passions, we should add the following : When you’re willing to put up with the tedious as well as the fun parts, you’re on the right path.
Over the holidays, we lost a colleague. George McIntyre taught in the Music Technology department. He came down with the flu and pneumonia, and the combination proved fatal.
George was one of our friends in the library. He asked Pam to come over and play for his class, and students got experience with a working musician. She usually worked with him once a semester, and the students loved it. He would also stop by the library occasionally to talk music with Pam and joke with the rest of us.
He was the sort of teacher all of us would want: real-world experience, concern for students, humility, and good humor. He was also the colleague all of would want for those very same reasons.
He will be greatly missed, but we can honor him by copying his best qualities when we can:
- Look for new ways to bring a class to life.
- Always share a laugh with your colleagues.
- Be the positive environment that you say you want.
- Never miss an opportunity to express gratitude.
- Love your family with your whole heart.
George was one of the good ones. He can’t be replaced. But his example can make our workplace (and maybe our world) a little better.
In his book, Stillness is the Key, Ryan Holiday tells the story of a world-famous athlete who was inducted into his sport’s hall of fame. His speech, according to Holiday, was basically a list of all the times he’d been overlooked or shortchanged in life.
Now I admit I did not look up his speech on the internet. It just made me sad to think of someone who had such a wonderful career still focused on the times that he had not been noticed or appreciated.
But the story gave me an idea. Since it’s the holiday season, why not give yourself a gift? Give the gift of letting go of one old hurt or grudge that you’ve been carrying around.
This is not about letting anyone off the hook. It’s about not being weighed down by what others have done or didn’t do in the past. It’s about moving on and enjoying life in the present.
It just might be the best gift you ever give yourself.
Last week, a friend of mine told me some great news; she is going to be inducted into a hall of fame in her home state. She was embarrassed to tell anyone; she didn’t feel worthy. “No one knows who I am,” she said.
But here’s the thing. I have a degree in English. I am an avid reader. Yet, when I eat dinner with my some of my literary friends, they often talk about writers whom I’ve never heard of. I’ll read about inductees to the Country Music or Rock and Roll Hall of Fames and not know some of the names. The world is a mighty big place, and no one is truly world famous.
Seriously, I have a friend who can name every opera in history but had never heard of Beyoncé until I enlightened him.
So it’s a fool’s errand to think you only deserve an award if the whole world knows who you are. If any of your peers think your work is worthy of praise, then don’t worry about whether you deserve it. Say thank you. Show up for the award. And then dance the night away.
The end of the Thanksgiving weekend means one thing to those of us in college. We are careening toward the end of the semester. Students and faculty are under a lot of pressure. There are papers to write and grade. There are tests to make, tests to study for, tests to take, and tests to grade. And all of this has to be done in two weeks. So stress is the order of the day.
So how do we get through such a period? We have to take care of ourselves. And how do we do that? Here are some suggestions:
- Acknowledge that it’s a stressful time, and it’s unrealistic to expect anything else.
- Cut back on extraneous activities . Take it from a person who has been in school most of her life; there is nothing more enticing during a busy time than some outside activity. There’s a saying that a person’s house is never cleaner than when she or he is supposed to writing a dissertation. So don’t be distracted by Netflix or a clean house, or that new book that just became available in the library. Stay focused on the task at hand. All of these things will be waiting for you when the job is done.
- Still, don’t be a martyr. A few treats should be in order. After a few hours of work, watch a YouTube video (don’t binge a series!), eat a snack, or take your dog for a walk.
- Talk to a classmate or a colleague for support and a quick laugh.
- And keep in mind, that no matter how stressful this period is, it will be over in two weeks.
Things that make me grateful this Thanksgiving week:
- I work with colleagues who make me laugh. I can be in the worst mood in the history of moods, but someone will make me laugh and break the spell.
- This year, we were able to get stress puppies for a couple of our programs. They made the students happy. They made us happy. We smiled the entire night, and we are looking forward to their next visit.
- Our college started a food pantry this year to help when someone in our community needs help.
- Everyday, when I leave work, I know I have helped a student in his/her attempt to reach a goal.
- The library deans and directors of our TBR colleges are giving and helpful people who have not a single territorial bone in their bodies and are always there with counsel, advice, and encouragement.
- Despite the myth, I don’t read books at work. But I am surrounded by them, which is still pretty great.
This past week, a student brought a calculator up to the desk, as students do about a hundred times a day. She handed it to me and said, “I’m the one you’ve been calling. The one who kept saying I had turned it in already. Last night, I put my hand in a pocket of my jacket, and there it was. I was so ashamed.”
We chase down a lot of calculators during the semester. Lots of students need them, and they are easy to slip into a backpack and forget. Most of them come back after a single phone call. And some students are adamant that they have turned them in as this student was.
But this student did something different. She owned up. She could have slipped it in the drop box after we closed. She could have just laid it on the desk and walked away. But she came in and admitted the mistake.
Often I find that it is students who restore my faith in humanity. Owning up to a mistake is not something that many people want to do. In fact, there was a book written about the phenomenon of the false apology, titled Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me). So someone who goes out of her way to claim a mistake gets a shout-out from me.
Someone once said (a coach probably) that mistakes mean nothing, what makes the difference is how we deal with them: Denying them. Blaming someone else. Or saying everyone else does it. Those are the typical responses.
Owning up may not be the most comfortable path. But it’s the only one that results in growth.
Two weekends ago, I decided to fix my leaky bathroom faucet. Like all potential amateur handypeople, I went online to see how hard it would be. According to the first website, it was an easy, inexpensive fix, and you’d have to be crazy to call a plumber for the job.
I took my iPad into the bathroom and started my task. Within two minutes, I gave up. My sink looked nothing like the ones used as examples online. I decided to be crazy and call the plumber after all.
On Tuesday, the plumber came and showed me the state of my faucet. He had several parts in his hand (not like the one round washer in the videos). He said he could try to fix it, but this type of cartridge faucet often had issues. But he was happy to give it a try. However, considering the faucet was old and the hot water tap would likely have the same problem in a few months, I decided to go with a new one. When he showed me the state of my drain, I was glad I had let a professional take over.
I am not handy. A few years ago, I needed to change my front door knob. Once again, I went to the web, and this time the knob was identical to mine. After four hours of sweating and anxiety as nothing went right, I was successful. But I realized that, in most cases, I should put household repairs in the hands of people who know what they are doing.
There are many things I do well. And I’m all for learning new things. Still, I know there are things that I will never do well. And age and experience has taught me to know the difference. And get help when I need it.
If Facebook is any indication, people have strong feelings about the end of daylight savings time. My mother hates everything about it. As early as August, she was already telling me how she was dreading the long dark nights of winter. She seems to be in the majority, if at the extreme end.
On the other hand, I am neutral on the topic. For most of the year, it’s already dark when I go home. So I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it.
However, there is one thing I love about this weekend in the fall: the gaining of an hour. I think of it as a ‘reset.’
I don’t change my clock the night before. I wait until morning, so it actually seems that I’ve gained an hour. And that ‘early start’ motivates me to get things done. Today, for example, I had already written my bills, washed my hair, ironed clothes, and found last year’s winter gloves before my usual ‘get-out-of-bed’ time. And the momentum continued throughout the day.
Now you may hate the end of Daylight Savings Time. Or you simply missed this chance to reset. But here’s the thing: there is always another chance. For example, today is Flag Day in Panama.
Ready, set, reset!
As you might know, two weeks ago, I took a nasty fall on marble in downtown Nashville. I bruised my left arm and my right knee, bruising the bone.
Oddly, for someone who is mostly sedentary and well padded, I have injured my knee more than once. The last time, after limping for a week, I went to the doctor. She sent me to a physical therapist. There I learned a very important lesson. When you injure yourself, at first, it makes sense to rest and not cause further damage by putting too much pressure and weight on the knee. But at some point, if you don’t move it, it will get so stiff that it won’t ever want to move again. So you’ve just got to grit your teeth and do it.
Or let the physical therapist do it. He iced my knee for a few minutes and then he started to move my knee in bicycle motions. When I left, I was walking normally with no pain. And with major respect for physical therapists.
So this time, I knew the drill. I did the exercises the doctor gave me. And when I could bend my knee, I started making myself walk upstairs in a normal fashion. It took another few days to be able to walk down the stairs normally. (Before then, I had to put down my left leg and then bring down my left leg, repeated for each step.) A few days ago, I came home and was in the kitchen before I realized I had walked up the steps without hesitation. I was healing.
The lesson here is that is time for rest and a time to get back up and get out there. The wisdom is knowing when one phase ends and the next begins.