In her book, Stop Being Lonely, Kira Asatryan tells the story of two people who both want the same lemon. Their argument becomes so heated they call in a negotiator, who cuts the lemon in two and gives a half to each person.
The first person squeezes the lemon juice into a glass of water and throws away the peel. The second person throws away the fruit so he can use the peel to make a lemon cake.
There are many lessons to this story:
- Don’t assume that equal is always fair or productive.
- It is wise to determine what people want from a negotiation, argument, or discussion before making a decision.
- Saying exactly what we need can often prevent things from escalating.
And if nothing else, always buy more than one lemon!