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On Saturday, I wandered over to the playing  fields to watch my three-year-old friend begin his soccer career.  It was not the most auspicious beginning. Someone upset him right before the game, and he refused to play. To show his disdain, he stood on the other side of the field with his back to the game, to the spectators, and to his family. Despite pleas from his parents, grandparents, brother, and his brother’s friend, he refused to budge. He was not playing soccer this day.

Despite Gavin’s lack of participation, there was plenty to see. Americans sometimes complain watching soccer is boring. But this is definitely not true when the under-four set play. You were never quite sure where the children would take off running. One boy, each time he came to the end where his parents sat, ran off the field, took a swig from his mother’s water bottle, and then returned to the game. Another boy, when his name was called, was nowhere to be found. After five seconds of panic, he was spotted, a good hundred yards away at the concession stand.

My favorite moments came from the other team. Each time they were closing in on the goal, one of the players (a different one each time), in his excitement, picked up the ball and threw it in the goal. Each time, the coach gathered them in a little circle, held his hands up, and said, “What do we do with our hands in soccer?”  And the kids raised their hands and yelled, “No hands! No hands!” Which they immediately forgot again in the frenzy of the game.

But the coaches were patient. They reminded the children of the big rules (don’t grab the ball) but never reprimanded. Gavin’s coach asked him several times if he wanted to play, but when Gavin didn’t respond, he let it go.  The kids were having fun (well, except for Gavin). And they will learn a little more with each game. And one week, Gavin will rush on the field with the other kids and will have as good a time.

Watching three-year-olds play soccer is a good lesson in realizing that sometimes it’s better to let things be and live to fight another day.

 

 

Warning: This post was inspired by Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project. However, I am reading it in French, so there’s a chance that I have totally mangled her meaning.

Are you a person who needs gratitude? Do you often go around wondering why your family, friends, boss, and/or colleagues haven’t thanked you for all you do? When I’m talking with friends who are unhappy at work or in relationships, it’s not long before the word ‘appreciation’ shows up: “I spent four hours, four hours I didn’t have, on that cake, and no one said a single thing about it.”  Or “My boss never thanks me when I turn in a report or give an update on a project. What’s wrong with people?”

Let’s even take for granted that your family should have appreciated  the time and effort you took in making a cake and that your boss is a total  Bozo for not thanking you.  And yes, it’s nice to be appreciated. But when the lack of such appreciation ruins your day and even threatens to ruin your relationships, you need a better approach.

And that approach is to change the situation around to a “I did it for me” attitude.

Let’s say you buy a raspberry gelato at Whole Foods, then sit outside and eat it. Would you expect appreciation for that? Probably not. It’s something that you do for yourself.

So try thinking of other activities in that way as well.

If you decide to make a cake for a party, then say it’s because you like making homemade cakes and experimenting with different kinds of icing, that baking is a type of creativity for you. The party is just an excuse for you to use those skills.

And when you’re working on a report, tell yourself that you’re doing it for your own career advancement or because you don’t want people to think you do shoddy work. You do good work because that’s who you are.

And the best thing is that your feelings are no longer dependent on your oblivious family or your Bozo boss.

After last week’s post about the “One Minute Rule,” Jessica Rabb, from the Math and Natural Sciences division, sent me an article about the danger of ‘precrastination.’ During some ingenious experiments on college students, researchers found that people will often do inane and even unnecessary things to lighten their cognitive load.

Especially in our wireless world where the dings for emails, messages, posts, and tweets never stop, we can easily mistake being busy for being productive. We might feel good after getting our in-box down to fifty emails, but we may still not have gotten to any of the important business of the day.

When I taught composition, I lectured my students on not worrying about how a word was spelled at the rough draft stage. “We’re working with content here,” I’d say. “You may not even have that word in your final draft. Don’t edit until the end.”

Students often did not like my advice. After all, finding out how a word is spelled is easier than taking out whole chunks of text and rewriting. And it can certainly feel like something is being accomplished.

t’s probably worthwhile to remember Stephen Covey’s time management quadrant. He divided tasks into urgent/not urgent and important/not important. By looking to see where a task lies in the quadrant, we can make wise decisions about what to do first and what to perhaps omit all together.

Unfortunately, the past two weeks have taught me that I am some sort of weird combination of the procrastinator and the precrastinator.

 

In her book The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin mentions the one minute rule; If something takes less than a minute, then go ahead and do it instead of putting it off.

Friday night, I came home to find my dining table covered with books, papers all over my sofa, and clothes hanging off my bed frame. Had someone broken in my house? No, it was the inevitable result of not following this rule. Instead of putting things away, I stacked them. And then stacked them some more. And then some more. 

 So after spending part of the weekend putting away the stuff that piled up over the previous weeks, I made a resolution to follow Rubin’s rule. I will no longer throw something to the side if I could just as easily hang it up, put it in the bookcase, or place it in a file. 

Now, I need to do the same with my office here. But one step at a time. . .

 

 

Of all the things that I memorized in school, I really can only recall one: present tense verbs in Spanish. This might have been because, in my summers during college, I worked in a cotton mill sewing remnants together. To help make the days less tedious, I practiced my Spanish verbs. When you considered all the memorization, I did in high school and college, my retention rate was not terribly high. Maybe my approach was wrong headed.

Last week, a colleague sent me this article on better ways to memorize. And I realized that I had failed in two major ways. 

  • I had done too much cramming in college. I tried to memorize everything I needed for a test in a very short time. My brain held the information for the exam, but soon after, it was gone. The better way to memorize something is to space it out: A certain amount of time each day is much better than the same amount of time pushed into one or two days. Fortunately, you can often work in these periods into a daily routine. You can go as low tech as flash cards or download an app.
  • I also tried to memorize in isolation. Research shows that it’s easier to remember ideas that we understand the subject. Unfortunately, for some of us, we try to memorize WHEN we don’t understand, hoping that pure memory will carry us through on a test. So it’s imperative to understand the concepts and how they relate to each other if you need to memorize material for a course. 

If you are looking for some helpful apps to download, here are some suggestions.

Mind Vault: The Memorization Assistant ($2.99) (Apple)

There are lots of flash cards apps. Here are three as well as some reviews of others:

Flashcards+ (free)

Flashcards from Brainscape (free)

Flashcards Deluxe ($3.99)

Click here for an article on apps for Android users.

 

We are more than halfway through the summer and through the year. Maybe you’ve already taken your summer vacation, and you have those post-holiday blues. Maybe work is beginning to pile up as you get ready for fall semester. The return of the hot, steamy weather isn’t helping. And the World Cup is over.

What to do?

Now I’m assuming that you don’t have thirty days of vacation time and excess funds to leave town. If so, then stop reading this immediately and book your flight. For the rest of us, it’s time to take some mini-breaks to celebrate the last part of summer:

  • Get an ice cream cone and don’t worry if some melts on your shirt.
  • Watch the silliest, scariest, or funniest movie you can find. (I recommend revisiting Ghostbusters.)
  • Read a good novel. (The Storied Life of  A. J. Fikry is a must-read for book lovers.)
  • Find a television series you missed and binge watch. (Game of Thrones, anyone?)
  • Go to the pool or the gym, not so much to work out, but just to play. Splash in shallow end or play basketball.
  • Go in that little shop that you’re always passing by and saying, “I really should stop there sometime.”
  • Play tourist in your hometown.
  • And, last but not least, rejoice in the fact that Weird Al Yankovic has come out with a new album of parodies. “Word Crimes” is for English teachers everywhere. And “Tacky” . . . well, you know who you are!

 

 

 

 

 

I am not a morning person. That is actually putting it too mildly. I basically hate everything about mornings. I don’t like that the sun is shining so brightly that I have to bury my face in the pillow to go back to sleep. I don’t like alarm clocks. I don’t like leaving my bed. I don’t like that people want to talk to me. 

But for years, I have tried to change because, let’s face it, morning people rule the world. Success books and blogs extol the virtues of early rising. And morning people often judge those of us who don’t get up at the crack of dawn and are at work before the doors are even unlocked.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I simply can’t make myself a morning person. I can get my body out of bed (well, some of the time) but not my mind. To me, the morning hours drag past. I can’t seem to do any real thinking, and I feel mired in quicksand on projects. However, the minute that morning passes and afternoon has arrived (yes, the stroke of noon), I suddenly perk up and my to-do list no longer seems so overbearing and endless. 

I’ve even brought this self knowledge to my work-out. Two weeks ago, I started going to the gym at 7:30 or 8 in the evenings. Suddenly, I felt like a kid again, having play time after supper instead of forcing myself through a routine. Yes, it requires an extra quick shower when I get home, but it makes my day better. So I’m sticking to it.

The lesson here is simple: Find what works for you. And then do it.

 

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